Vancouver Counselling & Therapy: The Wishing Wells Counselling Service

We provide children, individual, couples and family counselling service in the Oakridge area in Vancouver, BC.

Articles about Grief & Death

For Parents – Dealing with your own emotions after disclosure of child sexual abuse

Pablee Wong, MC, RCC, RMFT, RPT-S

What Parents may experience after a child sexual abuse disclosure
When parents first find out about their children being sexually abused, they will experience a wide range of feelings. These emotional reactions are normal responses to a child sexual abuse disclosure. In addition to shock & disbelief, most parents may also feel guilty, worried, angry, deeply saddened, disturbed, heartbroken, lonely or even numb. Your world may seem to have fallen apart and you may feel that you don’t know whom you can trust anymore. Parents often tend to blame themselves for not paying attention to their child’s behaviors or complaints earlier on. You may feel that you have failed as parents and you didn’t protect your children. For some parents they may wonder why their children didn’t disclose to them directly but to others. Some parents also become angry at themselves or at their spouses for not supporting the family.

Continue Reading »

Surviving the Loss of your Baby: Coping after a Stillbirth

Pablee Wong, MC, RCC, RMFT, RPT-S

From the moment pregnancy is confirmed, expectant parents normally start to bond with the unborn child. When this precious baby turns out not to be viable, dreams, fantasies and plans for the future are shattered. As an expectant mother or parent, the birth of your child is a time of joy and celebration.

In spite of the advanced medical knowledge and precaution, stillbirths still happen. The Canadian National infant mortality rate (number of deaths of children less than one year of age) is approximate 5% per per 1,000 live births. The infant mortality rate in British Columbia is approximate 4.1% ( Statistics Canada: Infant Mortality Rate). When the tragedy of stillbirth occurs, the pain is devastating and profound for the parents and their extended families.

The loss of your baby may trigger some of the following questions, blame on yourself or on others:
Continue Reading »

Coping After Your Separation or Divorce

By Pablee Wong, MC, RCC, RMFT, RPT-S

When most of us decided to get married, we made the decision to share a life with a significant other for the rest of our lives. Some of us probably were ecstatic that our dreams had finally come true – that we have finally found a person who would love us dearly for the rest of our lives. Most of us spent lots of time, money and energy on wedding planning as we all wanted the best memory possible.

However, not all of these marriages work out in the end. Continue Reading »

Next »