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Articles about Relationships, Marriage & Divorce

For Parents – Dealing with your own emotions after disclosure of child sexual abuse

Pablee Wong, MC, RCC, RMFT, RPT-S

What Parents may experience after a child sexual abuse disclosure
When parents first find out about their children being sexually abused, they will experience a wide range of feelings. These emotional reactions are normal responses to a child sexual abuse disclosure. In addition to shock & disbelief, most parents may also feel guilty, worried, angry, deeply saddened, disturbed, heartbroken, lonely or even numb. Your world may seem to have fallen apart and you may feel that you don’t know whom you can trust anymore. Parents often tend to blame themselves for not paying attention to their child’s behaviors or complaints earlier on. You may feel that you have failed as parents and you didn’t protect your children. For some parents they may wonder why their children didn’t disclose to them directly but to others. Some parents also become angry at themselves or at their spouses for not supporting the family.

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Surviving the Loss of your Baby: Coping after a Stillbirth

Pablee Wong, MC, RCC, RMFT, RPT-S

From the moment pregnancy is confirmed, expectant parents normally start to bond with the unborn child. When this precious baby turns out not to be viable, dreams, fantasies and plans for the future are shattered. As an expectant mother or parent, the birth of your child is a time of joy and celebration.

In spite of the advanced medical knowledge and precaution, stillbirths still happen. The Canadian National infant mortality rate (number of deaths of children less than one year of age) is approximate 5% per per 1,000 live births. The infant mortality rate in British Columbia is approximate 4.1% ( Statistics Canada: Infant Mortality Rate). When the tragedy of stillbirth occurs, the pain is devastating and profound for the parents and their extended families.

The loss of your baby may trigger some of the following questions, blame on yourself or on others:
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Dealing with Infidelity: Coping & Rebuilding Relationships After an Affair

By Pablee Wong, MC, RCC, RMFT, RPT-S

What constitutes an affair? The kind or the form of the affair your partner or spouse was engaged in may not be the most important issue. What matters the most is that the trust is broken in a committed and intimate relationship. An affair can be a sexual or emotional relationship outside of a committed relationship. It can also be pornographic addiction or online chatting with another person. Discovering your spouse’s affair with another person is a devastating and shocking experience. Infidelity is a very challenging and painful issue for a couple to face. When you find out that your spouse has been unfaithful, you will likely be experiencing various emotional and physical reactions. Feeling betrayed can be a very overwhelming and crippling experiences. The discovery of an affair may numb your senses or even fill you with tremendous rage.
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